Being a homemaker.

McDoofus · Post by **McDoofus** » Fri Jul 02, 2004 6:42 pm

[quote="reva";p="363932"][quote="McDoofus";p="363852"] And being pregnant is, after all, the overall goal of life.
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In theory maybe, but I'm sure as hell not planning on it (go ahead with the "You'll change your mind someday" comments, I've heard them before).
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Of course, in theory. Lots of people (like yourself) choose not to have kids, and that's cool. I was just trying to point out that being pregnant is not bad, but good.

[quote="reva";p="363932"]What about the single parent who has to work or else the kid(s) will be starving and naked? Or people that don't even have kids?[/quote]
Obviously, the single parent needs to provide. I was talking about a married couple with kids. And even if a couple doesn't have kids, I think that if they can afford it and would like to, one of the spouses staying home is a good thing.

Jezebel · Post by **Jezebel** » Fri Jul 02, 2004 6:56 pm

I'm with you reva, anytime someone pulls the "you'll change your mind"/"you're still so young" I have to refrain from punching them in the face over and over while shoving their ovaries/testicles down their throats. That's the fastest way humanly possible to piss me off. Assume that I don't know what the hell I want to do to not only my body, but the rest of my life.

Zenith · Post by **Zenith** » Fri Jul 02, 2004 7:02 pm

I'll second that. I think one of the few things I can't stand at all is people thinking they're more qualified to make decisions for you than you are.

M.Musashi · Post by **M.Musashi** » Sat Jul 03, 2004 12:23 am

<--- Used to be an FHA member in high school.

BillyBlaze · Post by **BillyBlaze** » Sat Jul 03, 2004 12:48 am

[quote="Zenith";p="363955"]I'll second that. I think one of the few things I can't stand at all is people thinking they're more qualified to make decisions for you than you are.[/quote]
You mean like parents?

Rfairney · Post by **Rfairney** » Sat Jul 03, 2004 11:24 am

BAH..
you all *say* you dont want to .. you'll change your mind some day ..
*innocent smile*
Nah, I know

Its not something thats planned for a lot of people, and I know many people who say the same thing, its a good thing, while I'm not saying its a bad thing I have to ask just one thing :
If you are in a longterm relationship with someone you loved, and are loyal to eachother completely, and it happens anyway (call it an accident if you will) and you had the resources and ability to have and support a child would you want to have it then ?

BillyBlaze · Post by **BillyBlaze** » Sat Jul 03, 2004 11:33 am

nope, that little mistake is going up for adoption post haste.

reva · Post by **reva** » Sun Jul 04, 2004 3:46 am

[quote="Rfairney";p="364338"]BAH..
If you are in a longterm relationship with someone you loved, and are loyal to eachother completely, and it happens anyway (call it an accident if you will) and you had the resources and ability to have and support a child would you want to have it then ?[/quote]

Yes, in that case I would, as I am anti-abortion (personally, not politically) and if I had the resources and ability, I see no reason to give him/her up for adoption. And I would also still love the kid and raise him/her to the best of my ability. Maybe not because I wanted and planned on having the child, but because the child deserves the best I can give him/her anyway.

Azurain · Post by **Azurain** » Sun Jul 04, 2004 7:24 am

Ok, I'll confess that I wouldn't mind the idea of being a homemaker at all. It'd give me an excellent chance to work on my writing, and raising my children to be intelligent and open-minded is one of my ambitions. However, I also want to be a university professor, so... *shrugs*

I'm pro-abortion and utterly unwilling to raise a child before I'm ready, so it's either abortion or, at the absolute worst, adoption, should any mishaps somehow occur. It's my life, my only life, and I'm not willing to conform it to circumstances unless absolutely necessary.

As for people who say that they'll "never have children?" I think that that's a utterly irrational thing to say simply because you can't possibly accurately predict your future state of mind on such a major and emotional issue. "I don't want children" makes a lot of sense though, as does "I'm pretty sure I'll never want children." Of course, a lot of people don't change their minds, but it's nonsense to say with certainty that you never will. Unless, of course, you're prescient...

-- Chris

Rfairney · Post by **Rfairney** » Sun Jul 04, 2004 4:09 pm

hmm.. I'd actually like to try it, but tis unlikely..
working from home could make it possible however ..
or working school hours so you're always there when they get back ...
hmm...

Jezebel · Post by **Jezebel** » Sun Jul 04, 2004 7:18 pm

[quote="Rfairney";p="364338"]

If you are in a longterm relationship with someone you loved, and are loyal to eachother completely, and it happens anyway (call it an accident if you will) and you had the resources and ability to have and support a child would you want to have it then ?[/quote]

I do everything in my power to not be in that situation short of getting my tubes tied, which is virtually impossible for someone to get at my age, because god forbid I actually know what I want to do with my body.

You have to go through all these hoops in order to NOT have children, yet all you have to do to pop out one is spread your legs. FAR more harm is caused by that than the people that later choose they want kids after the surgery. It's called adoption eh? I do not want children, in any way, shape, or form. having the resources and ability to do so would not change that. My reasons for not wanting them have nothing to do with that. At all. I refuse to bring an unwanted child into this world, and that's exactly what it would be. If I did keep it, I'd resent it for the rest of my life. No child deserves that.

If I even *thought* there was an accident, morning after pill it is. Beyond that, not sure how I would deal with, it's either abortion or adoption, and neither one really appeals to me, but I can cross that bridge when or if I get to it.

Rfairney · Post by **Rfairney** » Sun Jul 04, 2004 8:14 pm

It should be made easier to block out the possibility of "accidents" occuring I think
But it should be reversable
Of course there is IVF if you changed your mind ?

wocket · Post by **wocket** » Sun Jul 04, 2004 8:18 pm

[quote="Jezebel";p="364804"][quote="Rfairney";p="364338"]

If you are in a longterm relationship with someone you loved, and are loyal to eachother completely, and it happens anyway (call it an accident if you will) and you had the resources and ability to have and support a child would you want to have it then ?[/quote]

I do everything in my power to not be in that situation short of getting my tubes tied, which is virtually impossible for someone to get at my age, because god forbid I actually know what I want to do with my body.

You have to go through all these hoops in order to NOT have children, yet all you have to do to pop out one is spread your legs. FAR more harm is caused by that than the people that later choose they want kids after the surgery. It's called adoption eh? I do not want children, in any way, shape, or form. having the resources and ability to do so would not change that. My reasons for not wanting them have nothing to do with that. At all. I refuse to bring an unwanted child into this world, and that's exactly what it would be. If I did keep it, I'd resent it for the rest of my life. No child deserves that.

If I even *thought* there was an accident, morning after pill it is. Beyond that, not sure how I would deal with, it's either abortion or adoption, and neither one really appeals to me, but I can cross that bridge when or if I get to it.[/quote]

What she said.

Jez, you're perfect.

BillyBlaze · Post by **BillyBlaze** » Mon Jul 05, 2004 3:49 am

[quote="Jezebel";p="364804"]I refuse to bring an unwanted child into this world, and that's exactly what it would be. If I did keep it, I'd resent it for the rest of my life. [/quote]

Wow, resenting a child for your mistakes, and I thought I was the only one that cold.

Jezebel · Post by **Jezebel** » Mon Jul 05, 2004 5:02 am

Which is exactly why I wouldn't keep it. Wonderful concept isn't it? Or did you miss the part right after it where I said that no child deserves that?

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