Weddings for under 4000 bucks? HOW? Don't rings cost 20,000?

Metzgirl · Post by **Metzgirl** » Wed May 11, 2005 4:22 pm

It's definately possible to pull off a wedding for less than 2k. Especially if you don't want a huge ballroom dancing, open bar, catered, over-the-top wedding. Only four things are required for an official wedding: The couple, an officiant, some witnesses, and a marriage liscense. The rest is just fluff. You could even leave out the liscense if you fear being found by THE MAN.

Nekra · Post by **Nekra** » Wed May 11, 2005 5:18 pm

*Coough*Drive-thru wedding in las Vegas *Cough*

HoldEmRules · Post by **HoldEmRules** » Wed May 11, 2005 8:08 pm

Er wow. I'm surprised that this many females responded with "it's ok if it's small" comments. They do exist!

Most girls I know and certainly all the ones I dated all buy into the whole BIG FANCY wedding type stuff along with the BRAINWASHING that Da Beers has done to Americans (that big diamond rock that's overpriced 5 fold = love).

So where do I meet these women again? Non-ugly!

edge · Post by **edge** » Wed May 11, 2005 8:30 pm

[quote="Kirstie";p="493517"]stop dating superficial girls. or don't get married.

problem solved.[/quote]

Agreed. "Stuff" (including a huge ring) should have nothing at all to do with a relationship.

kyoryu · Post by **kyoryu** » Wed May 11, 2005 8:42 pm

[quote="Nekra";p="493966"]*Coough*Drive-thru wedding in las Vegas *Cough*[/quote]

Screw that. If you do the Vegas thing, just get it all done at the court. It's cheaper, and less sleazy.

Really.

Yes, I know this from experience.

And, yes, we're still married, otherwise I might hit on smaonite

Also, FWIW, I think a lot of people look at marriage the wrong way. It's not a statement of love. It's not something that will magically make your relationship better, or worse, or anything.

It's a PROMISE.

Deacon · Post by **Deacon** » Wed May 11, 2005 8:46 pm

"Stuff" like food and shelter and health care and such are kind of important to have, especially in a committed relationship--especially in any relationship that includes even the possibility of a child (i.e. any sexual relationship).

Post by **Lizzegirle** » Wed May 11, 2005 11:01 pm

Yeah, that is something I do require. That my husband bring in money. Except for after I get my degree. Then I can bring home the bacon! MMMM BACON

SunTzu · Post by **SunTzu** » Wed May 11, 2005 11:42 pm

[quote="Lizzegirle";p="494123"]Yeah, that is something I do require. That my husband bring in money. Except for after I get my degree. Then I can bring home the bacon! MMMM BACON[/quote]¨¨

Heh, doesnt everyone

I mean, atleast making an effort, or studying so he CAN "bring home the bacon". Oh god i am so hungry. And we only have vegetarian pizzas

SwngChef · Post by **SwngChef** » Wed May 11, 2005 11:47 pm

I had a custom engagement ring made for my wife with a completely colorless (grade D ) 1/2 carat heart-cut diamond, each of our birthstones, and several smaller diamonds on the band, 18K instead of the standard 14K. I designed the ring myself using Photoshop, so it is truly a one-of-a-kind engagement ring. Despite all the custom work and the good Quality (VS1) diamond (remember carat isn't everything) for about $2,500.

The wedding bands, also custom and designed by me (18K also with white gold inlaid and a singular small diamond) were only $700 combined.

My wife always gets comments on how beautiful and unique her rings look, and she loves the fact that I took the time to gather up all the ideas we had WRT engagement ring ideas to design them, yet another thing that surprises admirers of her rings.

That "uniqueness" of the rings, and the dedication and creativity involved, is what IMHO means far more to her than how much I spent on them.

Deacon · Post by **Deacon** » Wed May 11, 2005 11:49 pm

Post pics, SwngChef

SwngChef · Post by **SwngChef** » Thu May 12, 2005 12:08 am

Quote from kyoryu:
"Also, FWIW, I think a lot of people look at marriage the wrong way. It's not a statement of love. It's not something that will magically make your relationship better, or worse, or anything.

It's a PROMISE."

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Agreed. A marriage is a binding promise that is intended to be made for life. The modern culture has perverted marriage into something far less. If you are walking into a marriage thinking about a "unless you cheat on me, I don't love you anymore, you don't provide for MY needs,....." clause... THEN DON'T GET MARRIED!

Marriage is a promise to love and honor your spouse. You have to be willing to make that kind of commitment even IF your spouse isn't. No matter how "magical" you may believe your relationship to be, you WILL disappoint one another...it's a given. If you are worried about how the other person is going to provide for your needs, you are looking at marriage the wrong way... you should instead be looking at how you can best provide for your spouse's needs.

There is no such thing as "falling out of love". What that means to say is you just stopped loving. Love is a verb requiring action and WORK (damned hard work sometimes), not to mention sacrifice. It is not something you find, have for a while, and can lose...like a wallet. We don't say "I have love for you", we say "I love you"...the use of which denotes action.

Marriage comes with sacrifice...period. If you aren't willing to sacrifice everything for that special person...don't get married. My wife and I are proving true to our promise..and trust me it's a huge sacrifice when for the year and a half since we've been married, we haven't been able to live together (both military...though it has to do with my training..which is nearly complete). Despite the separation, we remain firm in our promise...because marriage is the ultimate lifetime promise.

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StruckingFuggle · Post by **StruckingFuggle** » Thu May 12, 2005 12:11 am

How do you account for the fact that people change, SwngChef? What if someone you love changes into someone you don't love?

HoldEmRules · Post by **HoldEmRules** » Thu May 12, 2005 12:24 am

Uh I think the reason why a lot of the rings people are talking about are a lot cheaper is cause of the size...the cost increases expontentially as size goes up. A 3 carat diamond for example is gonna cost WAY MORE than 3x a 1 carat one.

I was kind of curious though...how many guys here would be OK with marrying a girl who is WAY MORE SUCCESSFUL than you are? How about girls who are OK with marrying a guy who is LESS SUCCESSFUL than you are?

Random question: Does Greg actually work as a private airport refuel guy or is that just a comic gag?

StruckingFuggle · Post by **StruckingFuggle** » Thu May 12, 2005 12:28 am

how many guys here would be OK with marrying a girl who is WAY MORE SUCCESSFUL than you are? How about girls who are OK with marrying a guy who is LESS SUCCESSFUL than you are?

Er .... Unless you have a ridiculously, misplacedly huge ego, why should it matter?

kyoryu · Post by **kyoryu** » Thu May 12, 2005 12:29 am

[quote="StruckingFuggle";p="494160"]How do you account for the fact that people change, SwngChef? What if someone you love changes into someone you don't love?[/quote]

A) Find a way. Find the commonality. If you both started at some common point, it should still be there. If you've both been not only bedmate but best friend and confidante, then you should retain some commonality.

That's why it's a promise, and a commitment. Because it's hard.

B) It's also a good argument for not getting married at 18.

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