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chocolate · Post by **chocolate** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 4:05 am

hi im really struggling with my life

i need some opinion from people

im in high school the time i choose the direction of my life

i came from asia few years ago

im living in canada right now

the reason why me and my mother moved is because of me... my dad is still there earning money

my parents really expect a lot from me

i tried out for a private boarding schools and failed

now they want me to be in a debate team and make me a total nerd

they want me to go to 'well known' universities

and half of my friends dont even plan to goto a university

i dont like that stuff

me and my friends... we skateboard, we listen to punk rock i play the guitar...

i want to do what i want

all this feels like a total bull

life is to enjoy isnt it ?

i know my parent want me to have a better life in the future like working for big companys

living in new york like a fancy prepy

i aunno

i have no freakin idea what i should do...

help me.. please

RadicalDreamer · Post by **RadicalDreamer** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 4:13 am

Trust me, dude, your parents are right. Let's see how "punk rock" you feel flipping burgers for 20 years. Going to college does not mean you're giving into "the man" or whatever, nor does having a decent-paying job. You've got your priorities screwed up a bit, methinks.

Teranfirbt · Post by **Teranfirbt** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 4:21 am

Yea, go to school.... Even if you start some kind of band, you still need something to fall back on.. Not a whole lot of upstart bands these days are lasting all that long...

HTRN · Post by **HTRN** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 4:28 am

The record labels LIKE upstarts - they are usually young and stupid, and usually sign anything to the labels to make it. Why do you think that they have these shows like "american idol"? Look who's actually producing the show, a record label.

As for school, don't go, the world needs ditch diggers.

There are three ways you are going to get through life: Working with your head, working with your hands or working with your back. Right now, mommy and daddy pay for everything. You can get away with being a loafer. Well, go ask your mom what it costs for food every month, rent every month, utilities. Do you want to live in a tenament when your thirty with your slacker buddies not having the scratch to even afford a twenty year old corolla? Let's see just how many girls would even want to know you if that happens.

From what you've said, you have no direction. You have to choose a path. You may not want to go on the debate team. Fine. BUT DO SOMETHING. Learn something.

HTRN

Euthanatos · Post by **Euthanatos** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 4:32 am

You're a weak, whiny little bitch. Your parents are clearly sacrificing to give you chances, opportunities in life, which you are clearly pissing away listening to AFI and kicking it with a skateboard.

Honestly, do you think that shit will matter in five years? Will it help you get a job, will it help you earn money, will it feed you and clothe you and put a roof over your worthless little skull?

Not going to college is fighting the child, not the man. The child is you. You're fucking yourself over because you think it's too much work, or your shitty little slacker friends have convinced you things will be like this forever, just mooching and chilling and stuff. Fuck that. Make something out of your life. Go to school. Listen to your parents. Actually do well in things, and apply yourself.

Or don't. I don't give a shit. I'm sure most other people on here won't give a shit. If you honestly don't care enough about yourself to do the right thing, you deserve to rot in poverty line hell for the rest of your miserable existence.

Rileyrat · Post by **Rileyrat** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 4:46 am

Your parents are right, to a point. They want what is best for your life, sometimes this causes them to push thier children a little too hard to do what they think will put you in position to achieve this. If you don't go to a university the chances of you being happy with your lot in life drop. I assume you don't want to live from pay check to pay check, I know I damn sure don't like the idea. I'm also pretty sure that failing that test made you feel small and unimportant, maybe even a little ashamed. This does not mean you have nothing to offer, hard work and dedication can get you far in life with a little help from a university.

I suggest you try and consider the things you like to do hobbies and start working twards getting a good education. You don't have to decide what you want to do right now. My younger sister is a very smart person but had no idea what she wanted to do once she finnished high school. So she started on a general studies degree, this gave her time to make her mind on what she wants to do. This option allowed her to keep her education going while deciding on a career path.

I, unfortunatly, didn't place importance on my education until far too late in high school. When I started looking at going to school, my grades kept me from getting a decent scholarship to even a sub-par school so I joined the Army for the college money. Ten years later I have a four year old son who needs me to provide for him, I can't just stop and go back to school so I can get a better job. I have to keep working so I can make enough money to support him and set aside money so he can go to college. My options are very limited at this point in my life, I work hard so my son's life has a chance of being better than mine, this is a goal, or atleast a wish, of most all parents. You parents don't want you to have to deal with what they did so they did alot of fairly extreme things to afford you a better life than they have. Please do not waste the opportunity they have worked so hard to give you, no matter how little that opportunity may seem, they have sacrificed alot to give it to you. As a person, and a parent I say give it your all, you will be grateful to them later for it.

Skuzzo · Post by **Skuzzo** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 4:53 am

Amen Euthanatos.

And can I just add.... geez Chocolate, grow a backbone! You're so damn scared your friends won't think you're cool if you go to university. Who cares? Do they really need your support to be complete losers? Do you really think you'll be happy sitting in your cardboard box under the bridge in 10 years time talking to your 6 year old child and telling him how you were going to be a success, but hanging out with your friends was more important...and what your 'friends' thought was more important.

Stop being so completely selfish and take the opportunities you're being given, Other people would KILL for them.

People like you just make me angry. Trust me - no education, no money. No money, no life. No life, no enjoyment.

Life is to enjoy...which I can do a hell of a lot better with shit loads of money, than you will ever do as the complete washout loser you will become if you don't take advantage of the opportunities you are being handed on a plate.

TEST:
1) Ask you 'friends' if you should go to university. Record their answer (yes/no).
2) Ask your parents if you should go to university. Record their answer (yes/no).
3) Consider who cares about you the most. Record answer (friends/parents).
4) Consider whose advice you can trust best. Record answer (friends/parents).
Compile results.

SCORING:
- If you answered No to Q1 and Friends for one or both of the questions 3 and 4 - then you are probably too stupid to attend university anyway. Find a nice cardboard box and start picking a spot in the park to spend your days as you beg for change. Do not expect your parents to pay for your life. You're independent and free...remember?
- If you answered Yes to 1 and Yes to 2 - then get off your arse and get enrolled!
- If you answered No to Q1, Yes to Q2 and parents to 3 and 4. Then get off your arse and get enrolled!

People will forgive your attitude at present because you're young and stupid. Luckily other people (your parents) are trying to help you make the right choices. What? Your parents don't want you to have a fun and enjoyable life? Gimme a break! If you make the right choice now, you will be giving this advice yourself in 20 years time. If not, then it won't really matter because you'll probably be bent over in the showers at the local prison.

Watch the soap.

Deacon · Post by **Deacon** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 4:59 am

What? LiveJournal? Say wha?

Arc Orion · Post by **Arc Orion** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 4:59 am

[quote="Arc Orion";p="531006"]Damn it, Skuzzo's right![/quote]

Skuzzo · Post by **Skuzzo** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 5:04 am

Sigging the sig repost would be just wrong

Rileyrat · Post by **Rileyrat** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 5:41 am

Let me drawl you a picture of my life, I have arthritis in my knees, shoulders, and back. I have a back injury that can't be fully corrected. I am often seperated from my son (the most important person in my life to me) for a month, and can be seperated from him for up to 3 years because of my job. The possibility of death because of my job is much higher than most college educated people. Ohh, I am only 28 years old. The physical problems I have are only going to get worse, the doctors estimate I will need atleast one knee replacement by 45 years of age. The other will need to be replaced shortly after that. Once I get the corrective back surgery, I will lose most of my mobility in my back and will probably not be able to lift over 45lbs. Granted, the military life isn't this hard on everyone's body, but there are more like me than fully healthy. All of this because I am in HTRN's third group, I earn my pay check "With my back". All of this because I didn't bother to get good enough grades to get into a decent college, then spent the first 6 years of my post high school life pissing away my money and my time.

[quote="Skuzzo";p="538164"]Sigging the sig repost would be just wrong

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That alone is reason enough to do it

Ward5x5 · Post by **Ward5x5** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 6:34 am

[quote="chocolate";p="538123"]
i have no freakin idea what i should do...

help me.. please[/quote]

Go to Uni and work hard.

Skuzzo · Post by **Skuzzo** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 6:55 am

Besides.... Uni was a blast! Great years! Great parties! Great friends!

I wouldn't have missed that opportunity for anything - the education you receive is a bonus!

You can attend university AND skateboard, listen to punk rock and play guitar. It's not an either/or decision unless you make it one.

Ward5x5 · Post by **Ward5x5** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 7:02 am

Look at me, I'm at Uni right now and still have enough time to waste on the forums and stuff. Surely there's time for rock and skateboarding.

kaiju01 · Post by **kaiju01** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 7:07 am

My advice to you is to start drinking heavily.

And form paragraphs.

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