Like greg, I've had experince on both sides of this too, but unmarried (and lovin it). Main points of how to get women and keep them is to at the base, be funny, and cocky in how you talk to a woman. Examples abound if you think about it, but if you're confused on the cocky and funny routine, take a cocky comment and make it funny such as: "hey, those are massive heels, you must be a midget when not wearing them." to "wow, those are some tall heels, you must be like four feet without them (smile here)." it's kind of a weak example, but it works, provided you have enough confidence in the delivery, that's the main key to it all, confidence, without it, you're like the rest of the billions of stammering losers trying to hit on the same girl that's been hit on all the time with the same lines and ways of going for it.
Another key point is to be unique, the women hear the same stuff over and over (as stated above) so come in with something other then cheesy pickup lines and such A second example I can give is if a woman nics or nails your cart while at a shopping center. The really cocky thing to say is "Hey! Watch where you're going!" where if you want to lighten it up (alot) you can say something like "*turn toward her* Excuse me, but I'm going to need to see your liscence and insurance info for this cart on cart collision (smile here)". Typically said with a sly, humerious tone with a sly, half smile will do. A follow-up is to look in her cart and see what she's buying and pick out ordanary objects and find something humerious on what she could be using it for, if it's empty, ask "So what you shopping for?"
Another aspect is to plan, make plans for lots of situations that are most likely to happen (not any bad ones) this way you have something planned out for when you go up. The fears and attitudes, the worst that can happen is a "no" there's a RARE chance that a woman will flip out or something, but it's a VERY slim chance, so go in with the attitude that nothing erratic will happen and beleive in yourself that a good result will happen. The fear of rejection is a mighty fear but it can be conquered. How? with experince and putting your fears aside, walking up, and talking. It gets easier each time until it's a natural reaction.
One final key point on the humor side, innuendos are your friend, a humerious innuendo can be made of practicly any sentance and are good for a quick laugh or a small filler between thoughts or conversation subjects. This is mainly just to keep things going, and to create tension withing the person you're trying to pick up, or plain converse with if you're going out (try not to use the "date" word, it creates a negative mindset about things and can hinder your chances greatly)
Since this should be short and not pages of draft, I'll end it right around here with how to get an email adress and/or phone number to set something up. First off, whatever your conversation is about, try to make your first conversation short, only one to five min, this way it's very little time consuming, and you can get in, get what you want, and get out with her wanting more. Now, How to do this? it's simple, really, it is. First, always carry a pen and pad of paper with you when you go out, the situation where you want to meet someone can come up anywhere. So keep it on you. Now, the simple and most effective way I've found so far is to simply go "hey, do you have email?" if (and probably when) she answers "yes" say "well, write it down" and offer the pen and paper. now, when she's writing it down (and take notice) when she's making the at (this symbol @) ask that she writes her name and phone number down too. This will give you oppurtune to get those items from her as well, which is really handy, because now you know her name and it's written down. Now, if she refuses to give up her email or phone number, a good reply would be "Hey, it'll be ok, just write it down, I don't bite." if she refuses a second time, you can try again, but I really wouldn't push it like that. Now, the old "well write your number down first" routine, this is a little test they want to play to see how willing to submit to their rule you are, reverse it back on them with something like "hey, that trick won't work on me, you give me your (email or phone number) first, and point to the pen and paper. Now that you have all the info you want, leave, don't linger, or it'll do more damage then you think. The final note, "what you did to get her, is what you should do to keep her." this is a tried and true method to keep a girlfriend around.
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READ IF CONFUSED: I'm a scatterbrain of ideas and usually just splurge them out all over the place, if this doesn't make sense to you, read it through onece, then re-read it, this way you can probably get the meaning of what I'm saying, if you still don';t get something, PM or dump a post on here, i'll give explanation.
