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Post by atlantis » Fri Apr 14, 2006 2:16 pm

JM has it right, If you really love her you will respect her wishes and wait. Not everyone in high school is doing it.

It is important that you both talk about this "desire" (it sounds like you have at least a little bit). Don't try to pressure her or presuede her to do different than her beliefs, just make sure you both understand what each other wants and is expecting.

The biggest part is you have already identified the biggest problem with your wanting to have sex... "I think most of my mental "want" for having sex stems from the thought that everyone is "doing it" in High School"...
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Post by Tigger » Fri Apr 14, 2006 4:27 pm

I happen to agree - I wish my first had respected my wishes instead of pressuring me. I caved due to fear - and regret that.

If you really want to stick with her - respect her. "Everyone else is doing it" isn't a good reason. Who really cares? Once you're out of high school "everyone else" won't matter anymore. You have to do what's right for the two of you.

And JM is right - most of your desire isn't peer pressure. It's hormones. :) Those can be ignored, hard as it is. :)

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Post by Deacon » Fri Apr 14, 2006 4:29 pm

Due to fear?
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Post by Tigger » Fri Apr 14, 2006 4:53 pm

Fear that he would leave and find someone else. Not only was he my first sexually, he was my first "real" boyfriend. I knew nothing...and was terrified.
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Post by SunTzu » Fri Apr 14, 2006 6:04 pm

If she has strong christian values, age will probably not matter. Unless she looses her faith, or you marry her, she will probably never sleep with you.

Oh, and atleast over here average age for loosing your virginity is 19 i think, but thats a bit skewed since theres quite a few nerds that doenst get laid before they're 30. The standard age is probably 16-17.
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Post by kaiju01 » Fri Apr 14, 2006 7:35 pm

/me looses his virginity on the forum (LIKE ANIMAL!)
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wait, anticipation makes it better

Post by spurnedwarrior » Fri Apr 14, 2006 7:39 pm

i've met a lot of people that in happy relationships without sex. though they do tend to kiss more.

wait it out, you've got what's left of junior and all of senior year to make that decision. hell, you might even have till college.
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Post by Raven » Sat Apr 15, 2006 3:29 am

Thanks for the advice everyone, I'm happy for it. I guess the thing I have to do is wait and respect her wishes, and I think after hearing other people talk about it, that isn't as bad to me.

I do think the kissing more often part sounds appealing... :lol:
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Post by VioletAmnesia » Sat Apr 15, 2006 8:22 pm

Its a good point -kissing is fun, as long as you can both deal with your hormones and decide where the line is, preferbly somewhere your both happy for it to be, and enjoy yourselves and the time you have together without worrying about what anyone else is doing.
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