advice-getting and keeping a girlfriend

Post by **Lizzegirle** » Mon Mar 13, 2006 11:13 am

I did say "MOST Women". This is not a thing that works on all women. But if the girl you are interested in has a personality that is about average to the majority of women in the world, then this will work.

Also, I did state that the way to woo her was to just ask. I am pretty certain that this is a fail-safe. If you don't ask, you will never know. If she likes you, she will agree. If she doesn't, then go after someone else.

Its really a simple thing that would work in any situation with any girl. Mostly, its common sense. I bet if I polled all women in the world, about 75% would agree with what I said.

Rorschach · Post by **Rorschach** » Mon Mar 13, 2006 11:20 am

[quote="Lizzegirle";p="617014"]I bet if I polled all women in the world.[/quote]
C'mon. I'm trying to be serious here. That doesn't make it easy.

I think the issue here is, before we get bogged down in any discussions that might prove irrelevant, is there a particular woman you have in mind?
And if so, what's going on there? What does the timing look like?

Just asking might be a acid tester, but it could blow the deal if done too soon. Same as any advice on how to approach it might be worthless depending on the lady in question (if there is one).

If this is just a generic 'How do I score with chicks?' query then I'd put it to you that asking online is probably the worst place in the world to do it.

Post by **Lizzegirle** » Mon Mar 13, 2006 11:27 am

Knowing her personality would help some. If she is into biting the heads off chickens, then we might want to take a different approach.

Koeniou · Post by **Koeniou** » Mon Mar 13, 2006 11:32 am

Like running away?

Or possibly a special sort of training/taming technique?

Post by **Lizzegirle** » Mon Mar 13, 2006 11:35 am

Hey, you shouldn't be talking that way about the woman he loves!

AzraeL · Post by **AzraeL** » Mon Mar 13, 2006 1:01 pm

To add to whats here about just boldly asking: It makes it awkward if you ask someone out who you have to spend a lot of time with (work?) and they shoot you down. Even if she does say yes and it doesn't work out, the tension is a damn inconvenience.

Jezebel · Post by **Jezebel** » Mon Mar 13, 2006 2:06 pm

Yeah, I've been getting the vibe that some dude at work might ask me out and I'm not terribly interested. Luckily we work in totally different parts of the building and our jobs require no personal interaction so if he does ask me out and I shoot him down it won't be too weird.

Deacon · Post by **Deacon** » Mon Mar 13, 2006 3:08 pm

[quote="Arminius";p="616947"]first maybe you should define your own meaning of "nice guy".[/quote]
Exactly. You'll notice that at least one of two things are predominate when asking that of the people whining about how girls don't go for nice guys: a) the definition is way off and/or b) they do not match the definition.

naturesrevolt · Post by **naturesrevolt** » Mon Mar 13, 2006 4:38 pm

Liz you have some good ideas for in the relationship stuff, I'd do those in one too. But a blatent asking out will usually get a good sized "no" because a few questions arise. One, "Why should I give this stranger my phone number to ask me out?" And two "Well, he just came up to me, so typical, why should I pay any attention to him?". Those questions are typical in floating through the mind of the woman you're trying to pick up if you just approach and ask her out, or if you're with a group of friends, she's in the group and you ask her out there (though they may be slightly different in this situation). The point I'm trying to make is make a few funny comments to get her laughing and enjoying the time being used to focus on you, that way she'll remember you, and you don't look like a wuss doing it.

Also, just my experince, I usually don't dip my pen in the company ink, it's too much of a risk if it fails or nothing ever comes to fruition, the only time I'd actually do that is if there was like a really cute one day temp.

Deacon · Post by **Deacon** » Mon Mar 13, 2006 5:01 pm

naturesrevolt, I could be wrong, but I don't think Liz was suggesting the "Walk up to a random woman you've never met or spoken to before in your life and say, 'Hi, I'm Nature's Revolt. Go out with me?' method."

Rorschach · Post by **Rorschach** » Mon Mar 13, 2006 5:32 pm

Hee. I like the idea of people using their RLF nick when turning on the charms. I imagine Jez would do very well.

dmpotter · Post by **dmpotter** » Mon Mar 13, 2006 6:08 pm

Hey, I usually use my RLF nick in real life...

(Yeah, when I created the account, I didn't really have a net name yet...)

Deacon · Post by **Deacon** » Mon Mar 13, 2006 6:49 pm

When I waited tables a few years back I used "Deacon" because there was already another Eric. That was over a year before I joined RLF, though, and I'd been using Deacon for a long time. It actually passes quite well for a given name.

Rorschach · Post by **Rorschach** » Mon Mar 13, 2006 7:01 pm

'Hi. I'm just wondering if you'd like to grab a coffee sometime. Yeah, my name's RandyWang. Uh...come back'

bambi38 · Post by **bambi38** » Mon Mar 13, 2006 7:29 pm

[quote="Rorschach";p="617008"]
Find the right woman to suit your personality. Not the right personality to suit a woman.[/quote]

This was the best piece of advice I've read on this thread. Bravo! If you're not a funny guy, don't try to be. Work your best qualities.

If a girl says "no", or doesn't make eye contact BACK OFF. Smiling and saying stuff like "I don't bite", will only irritate and possibly creep the girl out.

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