advice-getting and keeping a girlfriend

NotQuiteDead · Post by **NotQuiteDead** » Tue Mar 14, 2006 3:43 pm

[quote="Lizzegirle";p="617209"]I think whoever does the asking out should be the one who pays for it. If the man asks out, its like saying, "Can I treat you to something?". If the woman does the asking, she should pay. Plain and simple. You can't ask someone out and assume that they are going to pay for you!
If it was a mutual thing, then split the bill![/quote]

Yep, that's the way I've always done it. That's how B and I go about it now, no complaints.

As far as getting/keeping a girlfriend, two words--be yourself. Find someone who can relate to YOU.

tankkisankari · Post by **tankkisankari** » Tue Mar 14, 2006 4:09 pm

Has there ever been a case where a woman asked a man out and paid for the night?
And if there is such a woman, what's her phone number?

AzraeL · Post by **AzraeL** » Tue Mar 14, 2006 4:12 pm

If you ask her out, you have to pay anyway. Her phone number is a trap.

tankkisankari · Post by **tankkisankari** » Tue Mar 14, 2006 4:17 pm

I'm not going to ask her out, i'll amaze her with some subtle stalking and fool her in asking me out.
And if she doens't have the sense to ask me out, i'll complain to my friends how she can't read my signals right.

naturesrevolt · Post by **naturesrevolt** » Tue Mar 14, 2006 5:28 pm

what's funny is wite's whole demenor on the subject probably gets him laid quite often regardless, which is what I find funny. though treating them like sexual objects is fun if they know the game too, you have to do that subtlely. And unlike Euthantos, being a money spilling doormat will only lead to the common dinner whore crowd. The reason why women like jerks is because they're different from the kiss-your-ass-and-buy-you-things kind of guy that they regularly see walking around, the cocky attitude also triggers attraction within MOST women on this, but this shouldn't be an open invitation to beat them and treat them horribly, (hence why in my earlier post you add funny to the cokciness, plus it lasts longer). However, if you don't beleive my theoreys on this, go up to an attractive woman and try them out, see how well they go, of course they'll all fail without CONFIDENCE

Rorschach · Post by **Rorschach** » Tue Mar 14, 2006 5:37 pm

And they say teenaged boys can't speak for what women want....

Please, don't speak for most women until you've talked to most women. You're like Willie Scott - you're insulting them and you're embarrassing me.

bambi38 · Post by **bambi38** » Tue Mar 14, 2006 7:13 pm

naturesrevolt - You stop now. You don't know what you're talking about, and it hurts to read.

naturesrevolt · Post by **naturesrevolt** » Tue Mar 14, 2006 8:32 pm

I know what I'm talking about and can easily cite my source. here

Kyros · Post by **Kyros** » Tue Mar 14, 2006 8:36 pm

Dude please tell me you didn't just say you knew what you were talking about and then sited a lame Dating book.

Tigger · Post by **Tigger** » Tue Mar 14, 2006 8:36 pm

But...if you are quoting a source then it isn't YOU talking. YOU don't know what you're talking about - you're just assuming THEY do.

You're young...when you figure it out, let us know. I could offer a woman's perspective, but I won't. What works for me won't work for other women, and vice versa. I had to retrain my husband....

Rorschach · Post by **Rorschach** » Tue Mar 14, 2006 8:44 pm

[quote="naturesrevolt";p="617501"]I know what I'm talking about and can easily cite my source. here[/quote]
You're at it. Seriously. I don't believe that post.
Surely not? Someone? Please tell me that he's not serious.

naturesrevolt · Post by **naturesrevolt** » Tue Mar 14, 2006 8:45 pm

Beleive what you will, I know what works, works, with experince and using that ebook. Also, there isn't some scientific report on pickign women up, if there was, I'm sure it would be steeped in unconfirmed speculation because it's all experince and opinion based. Slapping the label of "wrong" on everything I say is thinking what I think is straight fact, but it's just opinion. So disagreement works much better then attempting to scold others that they're wrong, (though I may have done this too, if I did, sorry) and just because I'm "young" isn't an open invitation to dismiss everything I say.

Rorschach · Post by **Rorschach** » Tue Mar 14, 2006 8:52 pm

You know, I don't know WHAT the fuck you're saying.

Which I'm strangely grateful for.

bambi38 · Post by **bambi38** » Tue Mar 14, 2006 9:10 pm

There was no dismissal on my part because of your age. It had everything to do with the "facts" you were spouting off. Probably the reason why people are bringing your age into their arguements is because earlier in this thread you were speaking from experience, which is hard to have much of at 18. Instead of telling girls what they like try listening to what other girls are saying. And cheesy dating books usually have bad advice, so don't put too much faith in them.

Sophira · Post by **Sophira** » Wed Mar 15, 2006 1:45 am

My ex-husband constantly quoted a million things from several cheesy relationship books. Guess what. He's divorced now.

ANYway, there is no magic dating fortune cookie. People either like each other or they don't. Period.

That said, if you come across as phony, whiny, or desperate, more than likely you'll get shot down regardless if the girl might have liked you for who YOU are.

There are dozens of dozens of types of girls. Some of them go for the romance, cheesy poetry and flowers. Some go for ass-munches and "bad boys"...some go for money...some even like dorky guys who play video games all day and know the Lord of the Rings books by heart.

If you like a girl, be yourself. Be friendly, but don't deceive her into thinking you're not interested in something more. Ask her out when you think she's comfortable. Don't come on too strong. Don't stalk her. If she isn't interested, give it up. Sulk awhile, if you want, but you can't change it!

As for dates and paying, I ALWAYS offer to go Dutch, and if I did the asking, I pay unless he absolutely insists. What really pissed one guy I dated off though was when I kept opening doors for him. :S It wasn't on purpose, I was just in front, dammit.

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