My Life is Currently Suspended in Time

[Mista]

Through a serious of awkward situations with counselors at my local community college and the local university (Santa Fe Community College and University of Florida, respectively) I am now stuck in between the two with no idea what to do.

I can't get into UF because of some stupid requirement (you can't take a class more than twice if you're transferring, and it counts withdrawls) but a counselor told me I should be good to go so I went ahead and graduated SFCC with an AA in Psychology, only to be denied a few weeks later by a gum chewing, 18 year old looking, quite attractive, african-american counselor.

Now, because of my indecisive and procrastinating nature I've basically been doing nothing for the past two months, and didn't re-enroll into the Community College for fall semester, so I'm left with basically work (and my brand new 360 ) for the next few months.

Now I have to dodge questions like "What classes are you taking?" "What major are you going for?" "Are you working towards your future?" and "Mike, why don't you go outside ffs!?" in such a college centered town, I mean basically everyone is here for the college. It's assumed that if you're a teenager, you're going to college. And everytime I have the same disappointing answers "None" or "I don't know." Even my managers at work are disappointed. Is it that bad to take a semester off? I have no idea what I'm working towards, and I've already taken all the general classes...

Am I going to end up a bum?? The past few days I've basically spent going to work and playing Oblivion... Even my friends stop associating with me. I guess school just starting for them could partly be the blame, but I feel like even when I'm with them they're just dissapointed in me, already writing me off as a bum.

My mom has taken the liberty of sending in my resume to a bunch of different high paying jobs in hopes I get hired. Right now I make $6.75 an hour as a "chef." It's not the best job in the world, but at least it isn't boring, and the people there are awesome. She keeps saying stuff like "You're going to need a better paying job... now that you've dropped out of school."

I just can't get this idea out of my head that I won't make it. I feel like if I settle on something it'll all be a waste because in the end I won't get that interview, I won't get that job, or I won't find any offers at all. The stuff that I want to do are all cliche jobs that everyone wants, I just can't see myself making it in any of them. I'm afraid I'm going to disappoint everyone I know, and yeah I know, I'd disappoint them by not doing anything, but going through all that and still disappointing them isn't really as motivating as you'd think...

Sorry, I just had to let that all out... maybe now I can focus on something.

[thejerseyminx]

1) Why does your mom have your resume? Did she type it up?
2) You didn't drop out of school. You graduated.

It seems to me that you need to take some control of your life. If you want a better job then go try to find out. Look into alternative schools or programs if you want to get a BA/BS. I whine and bitch A LOT on here, and trust me- it rarely solves anything.

[Mista]

1) yes, that's exactly what she did
2) I know I graduated, but I keep getting the "drop out" cause I haven't done anything since.

[lila_may_qt]

Obviously your mom is confused about the phrase "drop out" and making life decisions. A drop out is someone who's given up on themselves. By the sounds of it you haven't. You're just trying to figure things out.

[Rainmom]

and you're how old??

Tell the nosy people you will be heading back next semester and you're taking a break this semester. If you are sure of yourself people sense it. And then change the subject. It's great practice for later in life as people don't improve with age.

First, your life is hardly over and you have time to stand back and make sure you're going the right way. I'd say it's a wise move. But pick your direction by next semester and make a move.

Second, I assume you're living at home. That makes it awkward to get a mom to quit, well, being a mom. You should be sending out your OWN resumes though. Trust me, it makes you look bad if the employers realize it. And like the others say, a degree is hardly dropping out. Clarify that as often as needed. Good luck.

(And I'm taking "what not to do" notes for when my oldest kid is 18 - which is all too soon! )

[Deacon]

To make sure it's clear, here, he completed two years of community college for an associates degree, which is not the same as a bachelor of whatever.

[Mista]

And it only took me three years!

[Rainmom]

So what do you want to be when you grow up anyway?

[Deacon]

He's grown up already! Some people never grow up. That reminds of me a story. This one time back in '63 I heard rumblings at the local barber shop about some place called Viet Nam. Now, at the time my buddy Jake and I were pitching hay for old man Stoddard down the way from...

[Rainmom]

What I meant was, does he know what he really wants to do?? Some people go years and never know.

[lila_may_qt]

I know I don't know! xD

[Rainmom]

I'm older than most of you and I'm still working on it!!!

[thejerseyminx]

I don't wanna grow up cuz I'm a Toys 'R' Us kid!


What? so I need to learn to type slower, or proof read. SHUTUP!

[Deacon]

You don't wanna grow up...

Don't forget that part.

[Jamie Bond]

I wanted to be a fireman or an astro-not (Yeah, dunno how to spell that. Astronaught?) when I was a kid.

But I came to my senses and realised... I could do both! I WILL BE THE FIRST SPACE-FIREMAN. Sent to put out fires on sattalites and space stations. I'll have a space-firetruck, and a BIIIIIGGG ladder.