Short ones with lots of carriage returns make me giggle, and are fun to read.
Anyway, don't get too excited about Smaointe's post, the girls were probably ratties.
I have been in a lot of long term relationships in my life. In fact, I've never been out of one for more than a few months... My LAST one was terrible. I lived with a girl, for probably 3+ years or so. She gradually turned to alcoholism. Violent, abusive. She broke things, screamed a lot. Drunk all the time. Probably the worst case I have ever heard of. The cops came to our apartment several times. Our neighbors probably thought I was abusive.
Then one day the same cop came to our door for like the 3rd time and asked me how law school was going. He said, "I shouldn't know you are in law school. If you [to g/f] don't get into treatment now, you are blowing smoke up his a$$" (sorry for the cussing, but it's the necessary affect...)
Anyway, after leaving twice (yes, I even went back to that, once) I finally got out, and about 2 weeks later I met the woman of my dreams. What was magical about it was that we had both had bad relationships. She was getting a divorce, and then there was mine. We had 'seen the strings' so to speak. We knew already what was right and wrong and what needed to be fixed and when to fix it. We clicked like no one in my life ever clicked with me. We are engaged and will be married as soon as humanly possible!!
Moral?
Yes, there is a moral. There is always one. Relationships are just that, relationships. Ultimately love yourself, respect yourself. Don't fall into a rut of just wanting a relationship. People who have none can have it just as bad as someone who can't get out of one. Whose baggage is worse, I ask? I was lucky, in that I didn't really walk away with any. But I never got a chance to be myself. I was always enabling. Codepending. And now I found that rare person who lets me be myself. I am lucky.
But know this: This relationship guy here was often jealous of single people. Time to themselves, to do what you want when you want. It was my problem. I had codependency issues. Well, either codependency or couldn't afford to leave on my own living on student loans, and motels can get expensive while you search for a new apartment. (my creditors would tend to agree) So maybe I'm not the best example...
EDIT: P.S. I HATE starting a new page!!!!!!!! It makes my post look so pointless and like it isn't attached to the others... UGH!
. That simply wasn't me though, and I was leaving the school anyway, so I left that kind of life behind me when I came back to my hometown and I just plain don't talk about the things I did while I was there. My friends simply wouldn't understand because it just isn't the type of person they know me to be.
