Yes I am okay!

[Jezebel]

This is something that's been grating on my nerves for a long while now, so I thought I'd share it with all of you so I don't snap and kill one(or many) of you. I'm a fairly complicated person. Lumping me together into predictable behavioral patterns doesn't really work. Because I don't have mainly. There's really no way to judge how I may or may not react on a certain subject or thought. Most people have a really nasty habit of thinking I'm less dimensional than I really am, and making assumptions when my reactions/behavior don't conform to what they think it should.

Case in point: Since about July until September, I hadn't been online near as much as I used to. This is mainly due to personal type things and working two jobs. When I was online, I tended not to talk much and keep to myself. This was because I was tired and not much interested in making light chit-chat. I am now just working one job, but am still kind of stuck in the not talking much zone. Not a problem for me, I'll snap out of it eventually. But what is a problem is I get asked daily by four or five different people each time if I'm okay. Are things going alright for me? What's the matter, you don't talk as much as you used to? This is slowly driving me insane. Just because I don't send you a message every ten bloody minutes does NOT mean I am upset about something or at you. Chances are, if I had a problem, whether it was related to you or not, you WOULD know about it. And if not chances are you probably aren't someone I want to spend a whole lot of time talking to anyhow.

Another thing that drives me batty, I'm a fairly pensive person, and often like to write/reflect upon past experiences. Some of which may not be all that cheerful. This does NOT mean that I am depressed or upset about something. Sometimes I just like to write about things and kind of relive those experiences. If I seem snappy, or make a post or comment that sounds semi negative, again, do NOT assume that it's because I'm having personal problems or am unhappy. I am not a beacon of shining happy sunshine, and sometimes just feel like putting retarded people in their place or waxing cynical random things. Again, IF I AM UPSET ABOUT SOMETHING, YOU WILL KNOW. If one more person asks me the dreaded"Are you okay!!!!1111?!?!?1" I'm going to bloody scream. Unless I come to you crying or tell you I have an issue I need to talk about, DON'T BOTHER ASKING!

Also, I KNOW that I'm not terribly talkative, don't feel the need to tell me that every five minutes. When you have 15 people a day bringing this up it gets real bloody old real bloody fast. I will come out of my antisocial shell eventually, just give me some damned space. It's not because of any person or incident, it's just because I honestly don't feel like talking much to anyone. Don't take it as a personal blow. Give me some space and eventually I'll come around. This isn't directed to anyone in particular, but rather pretty much everyone. So please don't take offense.

Anyone else ever had problems like this? If so, besides ripping their heads off, what steps did you take to resolve the problem?

[Blaze]

Well, you know I certianly don't think of you one dimensionally or have a low opinion of you in any way. If I ask, it's just because I miss my friend!!!!


Me, when people ask me if I'm ok.... I just remember that it's only because they care and get a warm fuzzy feeling inside..... I try not to EVER let it anoy me.

[Martin Blank]

Note to people wondering if Jez is OK:

If something's wrong, it will get posted. She'll post it, or if for some reason she's unavailable to do so, then I will post it. When you pester her, she takes it out on the nearest person. I can't count the amount of blood I've lost because of you guys asking her constantly if she's OK. Hell, the Red Cross recently called asking if they could donate blood to me.

So please, for my sake... shush.

[Smaointe]

Perhaps we should be asking if Martin is ok, and not Jez?

[billf]

/me raises hand

guilty as charged... in fact probably the worst

I just miss my Jezzy

I'm an overbearing lunkhead, I've told Jez that before. What's worse is that I know I am doing it and I can't stop myself from doing so.

/me appologizes a bajillion times and gives Jez chocolate.

[SothThe69th]

No one asks me if I'm okay when I get all quiet and pensive :\

Its gotta be the boobs.

[Blaze]

That and I suspect you get all quiet and pensive just hoping somebody will ask so you can tear them a new one with critisizing remarks.

[SothThe69th]

/me whistles innocently.

[Doc Giggles]

Nobody ever asks me if I'm alright when I get quiet and pensive. I think it could have something to do with the fact that I am always quiet.

[EvilElf]

Same here.
No one asks either.
No love. ;_;

Also Jez it might be that everyone cares about you in the channel.

[Shyknight]

Are you okay?

[Phong]

Feh, at least people care enough to ask if your okay

[Satsuki]

Hey, I have boobs and nobody ever asks if I'm ok.... might have something to do with the fact that I'm STILL perma-banned from the chatroom though. Hey Martin, if you let me back in, I'll donate you some of my Blood pool points.

[AuroraMystic]

People who feel the need to comment about not getting asked if they're ok when they are quiet, generally are just begging for sympathy. Fact of the matter is that people who aren't talkative don't get noticed when something is wrong because a lot of times behaviors don't change that much. I've found in my experiance, less talkative people usually internalize their problems. When a talkative and outgoing person is not talkative, people obviously take notice... but I know that no matter who you are, most people hate when someone searches for sympathy.

[Satsuki]

I'm not begging for sympathy. Why should I? Right now my life is pretty much exactly how I want it to be. It's pretty cool.